Guilt as a weapon.
The power of guilt is all to easy in the hands of someone who wants to have their own way. Its part of the cult to self. The Me culture. My mate Steve rambled on about needing compromise in relationships. Using Guilt is definately the antithesis of that.
Isn't it just terrible when someone uses guilt against you. Its a weapon of choice for some, and something that most of us have grown up using or being motivated by.
The manipulation is so powerful cos of the way values are instilled into us early on I think. The idea that affirmation by your peers or a friend, partner whoever, will be gained as reward for a type of desired behaviour.
In this sense one party must set themselves up into a position of power by keeping the other person down. The continual set-up tests and guilt trips made to test your worth as a person and requires you to prove yourself continually.
TBC
Isn't it just terrible when someone uses guilt against you. Its a weapon of choice for some, and something that most of us have grown up using or being motivated by.
The manipulation is so powerful cos of the way values are instilled into us early on I think. The idea that affirmation by your peers or a friend, partner whoever, will be gained as reward for a type of desired behaviour.
In this sense one party must set themselves up into a position of power by keeping the other person down. The continual set-up tests and guilt trips made to test your worth as a person and requires you to prove yourself continually.
TBC
posted by j a s o n at 8:51 pm
3 Comments:
Tis what Christianity, especially in the Catholic tradition, is based on!
Ah the RCs, yes of course! So it doesnt happen in places where Christianity isnt in force? Will look into this, interesting.
hey jase, just all too true, but as you and i both know, we can choose whether to act from it or not, or to act in response to it or not, or to use it or not, regarless of our circumstances and relationships. it is certainly empowering not to use it, and to be responsible, and also helps either you or me, eh, to see others more clearly. cheers, mate, dawne
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